I thought about the her cheating before, it could be interesting. But then issues on the foretelling and using his blood with the globe.
I never had a huge issue with Milah. We just don't see much of her- this is a show of misdirection and multiple sides to a story, and yet how quickly fans forget... Actually some of the reactions to her in her first episode may make me more inclined to like her... not logical but oh well.
Basically I think that Milah liked Rumple, but wasn't in love. Normal in the period being represented- very limited options, expected to marry, have kids, and very lucky if able to grow into a kind of love through shared experiences. I think that Milah liked how Rumple represented himself initially- someone with a desire to prove himself, go and fight the war- remember he had no issue leaving Milah for his big chance, it was all exciting. Milah never got to see the front lines, experience the affect that can have on someone.
It would have been better never had his "chance", than for him to go, be excited to go, than from what she later learned abandoned it. Her situation in the town probably got bad fast as other women's husbands died, other fathers, who were fighting FOR their kid's future. I think that's really missed thinking about the situation and is unfortunate she didn't hit it more squarely. That's why people go off to war, for their families, so what is running away? For it also to be why he cheated out of it? I totally understand her being upset. Wouldn't be surprised if she got treated like crap as an extension, with out any relief with deeper relationship with her husband.
Other thoughts- Rumple has no proof there was a seer, or way to really impress upon Milah it's truth- he didn't believe the Seer at first either. Milah doesn't have any of the shared experiences we as the audience get in a way to feel for Rumple. He started to explain, but how well, how well can you REALLY translate that. The possibility of dying to KNOWING it. It's one thing too if there is a strong bond of love already, communication, etc. to help bridge but they didn't have that.
Also, while I believe she never loved him, he too played a role. He was either truly blind to it, which isn't good, or choose to ignore it b/c he loved her...but could he REALLY have and know her so little not to understand/expect her reaction? Both of them entered into the marriage they could have at the time, not a one person show.
Now, her leaving Bae, I don't like how she did it. Probably seemed like her only chance- again looking at the time period- not many options, and was desperate. We have no idea her inner turmoil or possible depression issues. Not excusing, but context. The hard truth is that sometimes it's better to leave. It really makes me a bit upset when there is no recognition to differences of experience- taboo in our culture around mother/child relationships, but the truth is, not everyone bonds in the same way, or that truly loving can sometimes mean letting go. For me it comes down to have little we have, and some things that point away from souless evil person more than to. I certainly don't love her, but I could only hate with MORE context that shows her totally inhuman.
If through more context we can love and root for Rumple, Regina, Hook...baffles me some of the responses to Milah with so little. Like I said, show of misdirection...
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Date: 2013-02-22 03:39 am (UTC)I never had a huge issue with Milah. We just don't see much of her- this is a show of misdirection and multiple sides to a story, and yet how quickly fans forget... Actually some of the reactions to her in her first episode may make me more inclined to like her... not logical but oh well.
Basically I think that Milah liked Rumple, but wasn't in love. Normal in the period being represented- very limited options, expected to marry, have kids, and very lucky if able to grow into a kind of love through shared experiences. I think that Milah liked how Rumple represented himself initially- someone with a desire to prove himself, go and fight the war- remember he had no issue leaving Milah for his big chance, it was all exciting. Milah never got to see the front lines, experience the affect that can have on someone.
It would have been better never had his "chance", than for him to go, be excited to go, than from what she later learned abandoned it. Her situation in the town probably got bad fast as other women's husbands died, other fathers, who were fighting FOR their kid's future. I think that's really missed thinking about the situation and is unfortunate she didn't hit it more squarely. That's why people go off to war, for their families, so what is running away? For it also to be why he cheated out of it? I totally understand her being upset. Wouldn't be surprised if she got treated like crap as an extension, with out any relief with deeper relationship with her husband.
Other thoughts- Rumple has no proof there was a seer, or way to really impress upon Milah it's truth- he didn't believe the Seer at first either. Milah doesn't have any of the shared experiences we as the audience get in a way to feel for Rumple. He started to explain, but how well, how well can you REALLY translate that. The possibility of dying to KNOWING it. It's one thing too if there is a strong bond of love already, communication, etc. to help bridge but they didn't have that.
Also, while I believe she never loved him, he too played a role. He was either truly blind to it, which isn't good, or choose to ignore it b/c he loved her...but could he REALLY have and know her so little not to understand/expect her reaction? Both of them entered into the marriage they could have at the time, not a one person show.
Now, her leaving Bae, I don't like how she did it. Probably seemed like her only chance- again looking at the time period- not many options, and was desperate. We have no idea her inner turmoil or possible depression issues. Not excusing, but context. The hard truth is that sometimes it's better to leave. It really makes me a bit upset when there is no recognition to differences of experience- taboo in our culture around mother/child relationships, but the truth is, not everyone bonds in the same way, or that truly loving can sometimes mean letting go. For me it comes down to have little we have, and some things that point away from souless evil person more than to. I certainly don't love her, but I could only hate with MORE context that shows her totally inhuman.
If through more context we can love and root for Rumple, Regina, Hook...baffles me some of the responses to Milah with so little. Like I said, show of misdirection...